There is a business model that emphasizes "the main thing". What is the main thing when it comes to your relationship with your dog? What is the one thing that is most important to you?
Not the thing that's most important to your trainer or the trainer you follow on instagram. Not the thing that's most important to the friends who visit your home. Not the thing that's important to your extended family, but the thing that is most important to YOU?
Ask yourself what single change in your dog's behavior would give you a sense of relief and bring you joy.
If you can decide exactly what the main thing is for you (and your family) concerning your dog, you are that much closer to the peaceful coexistence with your dog that you are looking to find.
So what is your main thing?